Just read another baby-care book titled
Babycalming- Simple Solutions for a happy Baby by Caroline Deacon, which mentioned that
'Most people who favour extinction (controlled crying) as a method claim it does work - that the baby will eventually stop crying out in the night (I believe this as well). But we don't really know what the long-term effect of this short-term gain is likely to be'.
It had been argued that leaving a baby to cry: 1)take away his desire to communicate;2) makes him lose trust in you; 3)could damaging your baby's emerging self-esteem.
This coincided with the Steve Biddulph's book
Raising Babes I read early, which mentioned a perceived 'good' baby who doesn't cry might just be a withdrawled baby, a convenient baby for parents. That' why he argued that early nursery attending will have the damaging effect on a baby's emotional intelligence, as even the best nursery carer will be unable to provide that kind of timely response for a baby's cry as it is not a one-to-one situation, also the nursery staff are normally required not to be emotional involved with a child to maitain their professional stance, while what babes need in their first 3 years' life is the intensive input of love from parents. You can't outsource love.
Wrote this just o record what I have read lately. I have read quite a bit books lately on childcare and baby development.
Baby Sign- How to talk to your bay before she can talk to you;
Baby's First Year; the secrete language of babes; Suppernanny. I have never read so intensively on a subject in such a short period of time since the departure of university, not even on my professional area, which I've read quite a bit and accumulate 3 boxes of books and papers, but all at work ( have never read a structural engineering book at home)all been done over the years. It's not that I want to become a childcare expert or child psychologist, I simply find all these parenting books are fascinating and useful. Years ago when I was child-free, I would give a loud sniff to my child-rearing friends' taking the plunge into the sea of parenting books as I believed that parenting is just a natural low-grade stuff and you don't need a child psychology degree to do that, but now I am doing exactly the same myself. We all want the best for our child after all.
There are more to read, like this one
How to survive the terrible twos - Dairy of a mother under siege which I borrowed today from library. Better be prepared (though a bit early for Daniel!)
Daniel enjoyed peek-a-boo game in the past few months, now he enjoys hide-and-seek more than anything else, even more than the excitement of exploring cupboard and messing about all the controls. The game is like this: I hide myself behind the sofa asking where is mummy, Daniel will stop whatever he is doing turning to look the direction of the sofa and get himself into the crawling position immediately, Sometimes I peep out behind the sofa, sometimes I just crawl out sideways, each time when I show up he always bursts into laughter...
