'Too much' is one of Daniel's frequent used phrase at the moment. He understand this phrase very clearly. he say that word when I try to force him something or when he really can not cope what's going on around him. Lasst weekend we took him to see his grandparents down south. It was bonfire night in town that night, so we took Daniel out first time in the evening for such an event. Daniel firstly was very excited about seeing every children holding a flashing light. But after the parade, especially after the steamy engines' whistling, Daniel really had enough, he started to say 'too much, too much... go home... go home...'
Life has been really hectic recently. firstly, Terry started to work away from home, which mean there are just me and Daniel at home during the week, his new work is beyond the commuting distance. This is not the first time Terry has to work away. We worked away from each other many times in the past, but for Daniel, it is the first time to live without Daddy. Secondly, Daniel now moved up the class, which he is very resent to. Nursery tried to move himto Toddler Room in September, but Daniel was crying very hard , then I asked them not to too pushy on him. Two weeks ago, on a parent evening Karen raised this issue to me again and I said Ok, Daniel has to move on and grow up anyway, he is the oldest one in the Baby Room. And now it seems that the clock has been moved back to exactly one years ago when I finished my maternity leave and dropped Daniel off at nursery first time, last year it was in Baby Room, this time in Toddler Room, again, lots of tears, lots of guilt as Daniel virtually like plead me not to leave him there. Every morning for the last two week, once I mentioned that Mummy have to go to work today, Daniel immediately throw himself on the floor crying' don't like nursery... don't like nursery...mummy...mummy...' hevwould refue to put shoes on, coat on. Then I had to say things like 'Mummy will sit with you in nursery' to calm him down and got him in car. He murmured 'mama sit nursery...mama sit nursery...' all the way to the nursery... , which made me feel very bad as I can't sit with him in nursery all day. The following day when i tried the same tactic in the hope to get him in car but it didn't work as he knew mummy didn't mean it through the previous day's experience. Then i had to say 'you'll go baby room today...' he calmed down a little bit once he heard 'go baby room...' On the way to nursery, He murmured something like 'go Jelly Bean... go jelly bean...' at the back of my car all the way there, I thought Daniel was using kind of self-denial as the coping strategy, he knew he wasn't going to baby room anymore and he recognises the route to nursery, but still he would like to think we go to Jelly Bean, one of his favorite soft play center we go regularly.
Also, now I drop him of fand pick him up everyday. With my new work, I finish at 5.30pm, which mean he is always the last one to be picked up at nursery. So, there has been too much change for Daniel to cope in such a short period of time. No wonder he keep saying 'too much... too much...'
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Poor Daniel... I hope he gets used to the toddlers room soon.
Isaac will also move to another room at day care early next year. I wonder whether he would cope. His best friend at day care will stay in the same room next year. So it could be difficult for him.
And it must be hard on you as well that Terry is not around during the week. I know that Mark can't be much of "actual" help when he is around, but just his presence would help a lot. So, take it easy!
We are the same on this respect; Terry is not of much an "actual" help when he is around either. So I don't feel much harder than when it's normal. The hard bit during his absence is that: after having had a long day at work/nursery for Daniel, trying to cook something to eat, at the same time try to meed Daniel's demand for attention, which used to be provided by Daddy at this time of the day. Daniel now throw more tantrum this time of the day than any other time due to the above reason. i tried to adapt life a bit by preparing food for follwing day after he's gone to sleep. It worked a bit better, but I still ended up blowing it couple of time...
I fully understand you. Same here... When Mark had to be away for one night on business trip, I felt a bit hard physically as I had to do all by myself. But in a way, I felt easier as I didn't have to worry about cooking a nice dinner, and I could do whatever I wanted and how I wanted. Mark said he was sad that nobody missed him, I said "if you could help more around the house, I'm sure we would all miss you a lot when you are not around!"
What I did, was having pasta two nights in a row in the situation like that. Just cooked a lot and enough for three of us for two days. :) Easy!
Anyway, take care and I'm sure you will soon work out a routine for the weekdays.
Tery terminated the 'far-away' contract the day before yesterday due to a big row with new boss. yesterday he went a interview locally and got a job literally at our door step. So actually the row not that bad. Now we back to normal now...
Yes, sounds a good idea cooking simple meal. I always try to cook something nice to eat even when I was on my own, Daniel is very picky on what he eat as well. He would definitely throw tantrum if he provide the same dinner in a row. Anyway, all finished now!
To my surprise, Daniel seemed miss Terry quite a lot when Terry wasn't around. He likes to phone him and he would look out windown if he heard noise of car outside, he would say it's daddy... He definitely more joyful when Terry came back. He would insist Terry do everything for him, like 'changing nappy' and 'reading books', which I normally do. Daniel would tell me to go away and day ' Daddy read.. daddy read..' 'daddy change nappy...'
Gee I have been so lazy and just read this. So glad Terry got a job so close to home. Daniel is such a daddy's boy! My kids only want me and Mark is always jealous. I kept telling him that he should do more things with/for kids and kids would want him more.
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