Daddy Phase

Apparently, Daniel has been going through Daddy Phase lately! Terry is Daniel's favorite parent now!

Daniel used to be so attached to me that once I leave room he would cry. But now he is so into his Daddy that he started to reject me. He has good bond with Terry, which is good, But to the extent of rejecting Mummy, is upsetting. Since he was weaned off Dummy, Daniel started want Terry to settle him to sleep instead of me, which is a task I've been doing since he was born. Two weeks ago was the worst when he started to say things like' Don't want mummy...don't want Mummy.. i want my daddy...', it was really upsetting for me , because I am the one carried him for 9 month; breastfed him for 9 months, spent last 2.5 yeas keep him fed, diapered, bathed and entertained; I'm the one looking after him the whole time, all of sudden, he seemed to forget about all these, what he wanted was just his daddy. He doesn't want me to read bed-time story for him since we backed from China, which was fine. But that day when he actually said he doesn't want me to cuddle him, I felt heartbreaking. I've cried to my Mum over the phone for an hour at midnight, and my Mum said I was silly and shouldn't take it personal.

My mum was right, I was silly, but my reaction was normal. The following day when i googled ' why toddler prefer daddy over mummy?' just in case I've done something wrong as I started to think' is this because I started to discipline Daniel?' I've found pages pages comments of Mummy saying exactly the same and had even worse situation. Also found the other way round- toddler attached to mummy too much, which upset Daddy. Most people say this just a phase, it comes and goes! Better count the blessing now when your toddler hanging on your other half's ankle and have the precious ME time. Obviously Terry enjoys his new-found (maybe not so new!) attention from Daniel and started to taking on a lot of toddler-caring stuff. For bed time routine We now have new routine. We started to jointly settle Daniel couple months ago but mainly Terry just read story.Now Terry started to co-sleeping with Daniel on alternated days. He actually settles Daniel quicker than I do now!

Daniel has co-slept with Terry on alternated days for two weeks and now he started to feel insecure about me now, he started shouting 'i want mummy...' at night when he woke up... It is true, it's just a phase.